In other words, rather than just asking questions, the leader must be willing to share his or her own opinions.

In a couples counseling session, it my be advisable that the coach does not raise too many of his or her own opinions, but rather stimulate the client to access the elements that have led to the current situation. Both clients, in interacting with each other, can then be stimulated to share their opinions while asking the other open questions that display genuine curiosity. Doing this is particularly important if the couple is faced with a specific conflict.

One partner can, for example, discuss his feelings about the conflict and how the other partner makes him feel when she does or says certain things. This transparency must be complimented by an open question that shows genuine interest in the listener's opinions about the conflict, reasons for her actions, and so...
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